2008 Woodie Awards
Ask The Fox
Issue date: 2/4/05 Section: Life & Times
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I just happen to have this long running crush on this guy here at school. But I am a senior and I'm about to graduate. I am running out of time here. I want to tell him, but I'm afraid of what he will say or what he won't say. What should I do?
~ Running out of time
Dear Running out of time,
This is such a common issue girls face, I swear there should be a book written on it! First off, I think you should ask yourself a few questions. How long have you known this guy? Are you friends with him? What do the two of you have in common? These are all important factors that determine how you can approach letting him know you like him. I really don't think the fact that you are a senior should play any part in your feelings about him. Of course it is a minor detail since you know you will be leaving in May, but who's to say this could not turn into a long-distance relationship built on what you guys start right now while you are both here?
If you do not know this guy very well, I think the most important thing to do is to find something the two of you have in common or find a way to strike up a conversation with him. Establishing a friendship is by far the most important part of creating a connection between the two of you. Friendships are the basis and foundation for a strong, lasting relationship because it will give the two of you a chance to really get to know each other as people and not just as objects of lust. If you do know him well already, try to pick up on any hints or flirtations he is sending your way. He might be feeling the exact same way you are and just not know how to make the first move for fear of rejection.
Don't expect to see things start happening right away. When girls have a serious crush on someone they want immediate results and reassurance from the guy, something that rarely happens. Know that this is actually best because it will not be rushed or forced. Most of all, be confident in yourself!!! Look at it this way: the worst thing that could happen is that he does not feel the same way about you. Big deal! You are still young and have the rest of your life to find someone who thinks you are amazing and wonderful. So go for it, and see what happens. Wouldn't you rather graduate knowing you had at least made an effort, than graduate and regret not ever trying and always wondering what if? Best of luck to you!
The Fox