2008 Woodie Awards
Ask the Fox!
Issue date: 10/21/05 Section: Life & Times
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My roommate has been dating this guy for a long time. He always walks in and out unannounced, and it hasn't ever affected me until the other night. My bed was a disaster, filled with clothes and homework and crap from my room, so I decided to take a nap in my roommates bed. I knew she wouldn't care. So, while I was sleeping, her boyfriend walked in and grabbed me from behind, kissed me, and told me he loved me, thinking it was my roommate. I flipped out and he was completely humiliated. Now things are really weird between us. My roommate knows, and thinks it's hilarious, but things are really awkward when he's over. How do I get over this?
~Wrong Roommate
Dear Wrong Roommate,
Honestly, I think the best advice I can give to you in this situation is to laugh. Find the humor in it. Your roommate thinks it's funny, so you should too. The best way to get yourself out of an uncomfortable position like this is to turn it into a joke. Make it funny for yourself, and for your roommates boyfriend, and the air will clear pretty fast.
Since you said your roommate has been dating this guy for a long time, and she trusts him enough to not get mad and jealous over this mistake (which is a very good sign that she's very much in love with him), there's a good chance he won't be going anywhere for a long time. So, you need to get past this, and fast. Is he the sarcastic type? Can you joke around with him about it? If you can, I would crack jokes about it when he walks into the room. Put a sign on your bed saying "Not your girlfriend's bed" or something to that nature. If he has any sense of humor, he'll get a kick out of it, and your roommate probably will to.
Make the effort to turn this into a joke. However, if it doesn't seem to be working for you, try talking to your roomie about it. She knows her boyfriend better than you do, and she'll know how to clear the air with him. Tell her you don't want things to be uncomfortable anymore, and she should understand. Maybe she'll add to the joking and make it even more amusing for all of you. Eventually, it'll turn into one of those memories that you tell everyone, and it won't be a big deal at all.
"Hey so and so, remember that time you thought I was your girlfriend?" And everyone will laugh and carry on with their lives.
The important thing to remember is not to stress out about this. It was a mistake, there was nothing behind it, and everyone can easily get past this. Good luck and I hope things get better for you!
~Daisy Fox