2008 Woodie Awards
Ask the Fox!
Issue date: 11/4/05 Section: Life & Times
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I've been having dreams about an ex boyfriend of mine for about two weeks now. At first he was just popping up the background of my dreams, but now the entire dream is about him. I dated this ex for about 2 years a long time ago, and we had a messy breakup. Now, I'm dating someone else who I'm madly in love with. I consider my ex my first love, but I don't love him like that anymore. The latest dream I had I was calling this guy my ex boyfriend, but it was really my current boyfriend. I'm so confused as to what this all means. Are dreams something I should be worried about? I can't stop having them! Help!
~Dream Weaver
Dear Dream Weaver,
In my personal opinion, dreams are everything you set aside in the back of your mind, and didn't fully address, slammed into one moment or vision. Dreams are a combination of everything we didn't want to think about, didn't think about enough, or didn't realize we had come across, all rolled into one. That's why they're so confusing. However, that is just my opinion.
Did you recently see something that reminded you of your ex boyfriend? Did the date of your "anniversary" pass? If you consider this guy to be your first love, you will love him forever, just in a different way. True, real love lasts forever, whether in one form or another. So, somewhere buried deep in your heart is a special spot for this guy. Every time you find someone that reminds you of him, it's going to being up memories that you thought you had forgotten, but you had just placed in the back of your memory.
The last dream you spoke of, the one where you called your new boyfriend by your old boyfriend's name, could be your mind's way of telling you that your ex was your old love, but now this new guy is your current love. It could be your heart's way of working it all out.
If you're really concerned about these dreams, talk to your current boyfriend about it if you think it wouldn't freak him out. Talk to him about it and see if he can help you work through it. However, if you don't feel like you can talk to him about it, talk to a close friend. Bounce the specific dreams off of them and see what they say about it. Sometimes hearing others give an explanation, really makes something click.
Remember, dreams are just dreams. You can't help having them but you shouldn't feel guilty for them either. Let these dreams run their course and try not to stress too much. You know you love your current boyfriend, and that's what matters!
~Daisy Fox