If you have a spare 20 minutes before class and nothing to do, pick up a copy of the short and sweet book of wisdom written by Clara Lee called The Cupcake Theory. Although it takes next to no time to read, Lee’s book is an important read for anyone who is faring the dangerous seas of relationships and how to deal with them.
In The Cupcake Theory, Lee emphasizes the importance of remaining true to yourself when you’re in a romantic relationship. She starts off by discussing how in our lives, we have the constant duty to remember our uniqueness and individuality. The idea is that we spend our whole lives getting to know our true selves, and how this journey shouldn’t be about anyone but ourselves. When we enter into a relationship with another person, it is imperative that we remember that we are complete and up-to-par people in and of ourselves. The person we choose to be in a relationship with should simply complement us and bring out the best things about us.
That’s where this whole cupcake metaphor comes in.
The entire idea is brilliant. In essence, we as people are the cupcake. Cupcakes have real substance, are delicious on their own, maintain a stable base, and are each unique. Similarly, each person has things about them that are interesting and substantial, is good enough without anyone or anything outside of themselves, should have a stable base of their own that holds them up, and is a unique individual. A simple enough comparison.
The other part of the comparison is the frosting. Sure, the frosting is fun and delicious, but the point is that it simply complements the cupcake. The cupcake would still be a cupcake (and awesome) without the frosting. This is how Lee describes a healthy significant other: someone who complements you and brings out the best in you. They should never overpower you, drag you down, or change who you are.
With 10 pages full of examples of frosting to look out for as well as lots of love and sweetness, this book is a must-read for everyone, not just people who may be struggling with a relationship. It’s always healthy to assess yourself, and The Cupcake Theory is the perfect book to help you do that. The pages hold lots of fun artwork and helpful hints as well as instructions on how to be a healthy cupcake looking for a healthy frosting companion!
In terms of a second book, perhaps on how to be a healthy frosting or remembering that every person is both a cupcake and frosting, there’s more on that to come! Check out next week’s issue of The Sandspur for an exclusive interview with the author of The Cupcake Theory, Clara Lee. In the mean time, pick up a copy of The Cupcake Theory and learn all about yourself and the delicious and unique cupcake you are!